Stop the ‘Cute Mixed Kids’ Madness Says Mixed Raced Blogger TaRessa Stovall

Mixed Raced

It’s no secret that in our society, people deem mixed raced children, particularly children who are half black and half white, to be superior when it comes to beauty and aesthetic. 

TaRessa Stovall of challenged that notion in a recent blog post titled “Stop With the ‘Cute Mixed Kids Madness.'”  Her essay is both insightful and pretty straight to the point.  In fact, it’s really refreshing to hear a woman of mixed raced heritage (Black and Jewish = Blewish) challenge this  way of thinking.  Her post reads:


For my 6 decades of life, I have been subjected to the “Biracial Beauty” propaganda pretty much nonstop. And I am here to publicly testify that it has continued without pause from the 1950s until today. Unless we do something to stop it, its going to continue to disable and damage any true progress in the movement for equality.

It’s such a popular, knee-jerk trope that if I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard “Mixed kids are so cute/pretty/beautiful,” I would be in the economic 1%. Even as a tot, I suspected that there was something wrong about that message.

See, I grew up in a community with many Mixed kids. Some of us (like my brother) were very-good looking. Most of us were average. A couple of us weren’t all that physically attractive. JUST like other group of people, right?

Except we were all subjected to the “Mixed kids are cuter” propaganda that threatened to skew our sense of reality and feed the widespread delusion that our non-Black Ancestry bestowed a superior level of attractiveness that basically became our brand, whether we wanted it or not.

As I grew older, countless people—White and Black alike—shared with me that they “want to have Mixed babies because they’re so pretty.” I think they were surprised and disappointed when I didn’t encourage the pursuit of that goal.

I would roll my eyes, shake my head and sometimes hope that those particular people would not procreate interracially because they did not seem to possess the appropriate mindset and attitude to rear a Mixed kid with a strong, healthy sense of identity.

Check out cultural commentator Franchesca “Chescaleigh” Ramsey, a Black woman married to a White man, who has a decent level of clarity on the topic. She challenges the popular notion of Biracial Beauty in its proper context. Click on her name above to watch the video.

Let Us Be Clear: I love being Mixed. I love being Black. I love being #BLEWISH. I love being me. None of which has a damn thing to do with anyone reflexively deeming me attractive because of those things. I’m a’ight looking. As in AVERAGE and completely good with it.

Read TaRessa’s entire post.

1 Comment
  1. Yeah unfortunately another remnant of post traumatic slave syndrome. But I’ve heard this sentiment expressed by Dominicans and some original African peoples as well. Colonialism and slavery produced a lot of psycho-social issues that remain within our country, society, culture and community to this today. The whole dark vs light skinned vs bi-racial vs exotic vs good hair vs bad hair is just another component of that self-hate first imposed upon us by the oppressor. The fact that many still believe the goal to true acceptance and beauty is to breed the blackness out of you is a sad commentary but one that is held onto and practiced for ages now. There is a “fetish” and belief about having mixed children simply to produce a human that will eradicate African or black features and incorporate whiteness within a lot of cultures. Bi-racial individuals bear a great weight and have to walk and straddle a fine line. Yeah had hoped this type of belief, talk or practice would have stopped a long time ago.

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