Every year on June 12 the nation observes Loving Day, an annual celebration that commemorates the anniversary of the 1967 United States Supreme Court decision Loving vs. Virginia.
This decision struck down all anti-miscegenation laws that banned interracial marriage.
To celebrate Loving Day BeyondClassicallyBeautiful.com salutes several interracial couples whose unions are a reminder of why true love has no boundaries.
Rayna Clay-Mackay and Dominic Mackay, married February 25, 2011.
We met at a party. He was charming and funny and the Scottish accent didn’t hurt. He was a good man and a great father and we had an almost immediate connection. It wasn’t about race then and it isn’t now. It’s about a loving relationship where we support each other and love each other completely. That being said, I am so glad we met when we did rather than in a time where our relationship would have been questioned, disparaged or forbidden. For that I am eternally grateful.
When we first met I never thought about our relationship as being a problem. I’m Scottish and didn’t know the history of interracial marriage in America. I think it’s disturbing that even today some people object to interracial marriage. People need to accept it or mind their own business! “Success” is what I think of when I think of our relationship. We are changing the future by having a family and it makes me proud. I am glad that color was not a weight upon our initial relationship and that it isn’t now.
David and Joy Allee, married 10 years.
I was born in Nigeria, where out of tribal/religious relationships are frowned upon, let alone stepping outside of my race. When I met my husband, he was so relatable. I felt a sense of peace when it came time to introduce him to my family as I was confident that the person within would charm them to the point where skin color was irrelevant. I was right!
There’s always something new to learn – the beauty in interracial relationships, and all relationships in general, is the opportunity to learn and grow from someone who might come from a different background and a different perspective from you.
The colorblind approach of not seeing a partner’s race and understanding how that affects the way they navigate in a relationship isn’t the right way to go about it. Instead, being willing to speak frankly about race is key! It’s an opportunity for couples to become even more honest, more open, and most of all more aware.
Danielle and Brani, married November 14, 2015.
I am from Cameroon and my husband is Serbian. He was a student working in Deer Isle, Maine, for the summer, but that one night we met I knew he was the one! We dated for a while before he popped the question. I said yes! I am learning Serbian and he is teaching me his culture and its history. He is the love of my life and I wouldn’t change it!
My wife and I work perfectly in our marriage. The only thing that I’ve learned based on difference in the color of my spouse is that color doesn’t mean anything, we are all the same! My wife is a very wonderful woman and I love her!
Rachael and Jason, together 13 months
Jason is my first “real” relationship and we’ve been long distance the whole time. It was pretty easy to see each other once a month from DC to Boston. And then I moved even farther away a few months ago to the Midwest. He spent a week of his vacation to come see me (but I think the small plane kinda scared him haha). We do whatever it takes for each other. We’re always open to learn from each other. I didn’t think guys like him existed anymore, honestly. Everyday is almost like a dream because I can’t believe he’s real. And the kicker? He feels the same about me! Me and all my Caribbean attitudes. That can’t be anything but love.
No matter what your color, race, or ethnicity may be, I’ve learned that what makes a relationship work is the kindness and honesty you share with each other. Those two things will always win out over any outside opinion there may be, and by being with Rachael I’ve been lucky enough to see this type of courage and fearlessness displayed on a daily basis. It’s inspiring and has resulted in a very strong bond between the two of us.
J. Nathan Cartwright and Christina D. Cartwright, married August 9, 2015.
My relationship is so special because I am with my best friend and partner who pushes me to be the best version of myself. I’m so blessed to have found a comfortable space being married to my husband, which has become a blessing as this was not always an option for my ancestors.
We have the kind of relationship where we are free to be ourselves. I had been looking for a special relationship not knowing what that may look like when I met Christina. We’ve continued to learn that when you stay open minded and view everyone as an equal, you are free to find happiness when happiness finds you. We base our relationship on trust and we know we have been blessed to be able to live free on our own terms.