Ask Jael: “Should I Forgive Him?!”


Certified life coach, motivational speaker, and actress Jael The Great is all about offering uplifting words of advice to other women. This week she gives advice on how to handle a cheating significant other.

Dear Jael,

I will get straight to the point. I am not married but I am in what I thought was a committed relationship until I found out my boyfriend has been unfaithful. Everything in me is telling me to leave but I need to know if it would be stupid of me to continue in this relationship with someone who has shown me by his actions that he is not who I thought he was. We have been together for 7 months. Should I forgive him and stay? Thank you.

Dear “Should I Forgive Him?!” Thank you for reaching out. Honey, you have asked the question that many women are asking themselves at this very moment! Of course I can not tell you what to do but I will give you some advice.

The first thing I thought about when reading your message was she is basically answering her own question but probably needs a little confirmation to do what she feels will serve her, and that is a good thing. You pointed out some key elements.  Number one, you are not married to this person.  Number two, he has shown you by is actions that he is not who you thought he was.  Number three, which should be number one, as you said, “EVERYTHING IN ME IS TELLING ME TO LEAVE”!

Trust your gut which is what God gave us to survive. We always know what to do and it is always for our good. Forgiveness is not for the other person it is for you and you can forgive someone without continuing a relationship or friendship with them. So many women ignore the blatant signs and continue in relationships that are no longer serving them. Trust is essential in any relationship and usually when someone cheats, it is extremely difficult to trust them again. Do what is in your heart to do and trust God to send you the Divine Selection who has great character and integrity. In the meantime work on you and enjoy this season of your life.


Jael the Great

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Ja’el “The Great” is a professor, life coach, and dynamic motivational speaker who is passionate about spreading the message that “You are Perfect for Your Purpose.” Ja’el The Great’s passionate quest for excellence has propelled her to great levels of personal success. She honed her craft as a life coach and motivational speaker while working as a facilitator for world-famous motivational legend Les Brown at his “How to Become a Millionaire” Workshop. That opportunity coupled with her being able to meet Oprah Winfrey and see her in her element and experience her giving spirit inspired Ja`el to become all that God has created her to be.

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